Insane in the Brain!!!!!!

So last night i was reminded of how fallable i am in regards to the emotional attachment to food. I was at a small gathering celebrating a number of our birthdays which are coming up. pretty much all the food there was off my normal list of eating but i dabbled, including birthday cake. (HEY IT HAD MY NAME ON IT DAMMIT :) ). Later in the evening, i was talking with a friend who is also conscious of how they eat and had eaten like myself. I said, "Ive been so good! Now im going to pay for it!" UGH. Yeah, my stomach has been doing somersaults since then which given how i eat is to be expected. The other response is the more troubling. Ive been so good. How many of us have said that after a similar experience? And why? Why do we punish ourselves by emotionally attaching ourselves to what we eat?

Some reactions are good to be sure, the smells of holiday dinners reminding us of better times, a favorite recipe filling the house with that aroma. That is the positive side, but somewhere along the line a validation sinks in. We are good if we finish our veggies, bad if we cheat much. If we do good things we are rewarded with foods, that we are taught are ones to avoid.  Where does this lead? It can lead to a  overdose of "comfort food". See? assigning emotional comfort to food.  The if the trend continues, as it did for myself, we can find ourselves unhealthy, seeking ways to unlearn what we have learned to regain health and (again for myself) sanity.  And the extreme ends of it fall into eating disorders, shame spiraling, and its own brand of insanity. Place yourself in the mindset of a young person, bombarded with images of what "perfect bodies" look like, and then the next second hit with 10 commercials touting the most unhealthy but trendy crap a laboratory can put together.

But its amazing how it stays with you. Here I am, smarter than ive been ever about eating and exercising and still, I assign punishment to myself for eating a slice of cake. Frailty is thy name Fitmedic....

So where does it go? Where do we stop this? Is it possible to look at a plate of food and take the emotion away? can we look at it at its most basic, as a source of (hopefully) clean energy to allow us to live our lives as best we can ? Any change would probably start around the family dinner table. Not rewarding good grades with an extra dessert for instance. And by the way, if there isnt a family dinner table, maybe there should be? A chance to avoid Tv, cell phones, computers and other distractions and be as a family group, however its constructed at the time.

Id like to think that something i wrote could get people to think, about their own situations they face and how they deal with it. Maybe the next time you have a meal, whether its a normal day or a cheat day, acknowledge how tied in emotionally you are. DO you feel bad or good after eating? The ask why? The answers may be interesting......

All the best :)

What, why, how?

Lets talk goals. Or why you set them and maybe why they don't succeed. 

First the easy part. What do you want? Can be anything, in this case lets use me. I want to be better at Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. It's simple to want something but that's where it ends. Wanting wont get it done. Usually it means a prolonged serious effort, especially if what you want is meaningful. 

Brings up the next question, what are you willing to do? This stops a lot of people dead in their tracks. For my goal I'm willing to train whenever it's possible whether I feel great or lousy, through minor injuries sacrificing social events , relationship time, sleep to achieve what I want. Chances are if you want something there is a variation of the above you will have to do. It's not easy but that's kind of the point. If it was easy, everyone including you would already have it. This separates a lot of people and their "goals" making them more fond wishes then reality. 

It sounds like I'm being a hard ass and I'm not overly sorry. Anyone with goals has a mountain to climb in society today. Too much has been made way to easy to acquire and it deadens the drive to excel above mediocrity. And it hits me too. There are days I'd like to hang with my friends but I also know that I'll be better served on the mat. It's all about what myself and everyone else are willing to sacrifice. 

So.... What do you want? Write it down at the top of a page. Now below it What are you willing to do? That's where the real work is............

My debt to you

Had a brilliantly motivating day today. One of those that crystallizes what I'm trying to accomplish. I got to meet along with one of my dearest friends Ron Gardner, Roger Long. I've gotten to know Roger through Facebook and was excited to meet him in person. Both are dealing with Parkinson's disease and they are excelling. I can't do justice to their stories so look for the links at the bottom to get it from the source.

But I digress. To listen to them, going through the work that is their lives it makes you really humble. I've accomplished some in my life, but I know there is so much more to get done. And Roger was kind enough to remind me why I started FitMedic in the first place. It was and still is because I owe it to you. What I've done can be done by anyone, and that's what I'm here to do. Encourage you to accomplish what you want. And it may be similar to my story, it may be totally different. But we all have that story. And the success that I've had, well, not to share it is truly selfish. And yes for the cynics out there I am running a business and there is money involved. Ill never deny that I'd like to make this a successful entity. And if FitMedic is successful and people are reached and their goals are accomplished then everyone wins.

One last point that Roger made and I thought this was amazing was that he had met more people an established more friendships because of his condition than he ever would've. Well that's the thing. When people need help and extend themselves out there, very often it comes back in spades. So in that spirit I'm here extending myself to you. I'm not the be all end all of trainers and may never be but I've been through some of the same crap that you are dealing with. And you need to know you can get farther along the path with effort. Thanks Ron and Roger for refocusing and Inspiring me.

Roger Long: http://thelongwayup.org/

Ron Gardner: battlingparkinsons.com